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It was “bad enough” even if we can’t remember the CSA clearly

How do we validate our trauma and pain when we do not remember our childhood sexual abuse clearly?

Managing trauma nightmares without clear memories of the abuse

Alisa answers a reader’s question about living with nightmares and body memories of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) without clear narrative memories and offers strategies for navigating symptoms of complex post traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD).

Freud was right about childhood sexual abuse… until he was disastrously wrong about it.

I discuss Sigmund Freud’s theories around hysteria and childhood sexual abuse and how he was so right about the epidemic of CSA until he decided to be extremely wrong about it. I share what I learned from Dr. Judith Herman’s book Trauma and Recovery on Freud’s discoveries around CSA, repressed memory and sexual trauma.

A List of Content Warnings of Sexual Violence in TV Shows

A list of TV shows and a description of their content and potential triggers around sexual trauma, sexual assault, rape, childhood sexual abuse and other forms of sexual violence.

Would you like to contribute to Healing Honestly The Book?

Would you like to share about your experiences healing from childhood sexual abuse? I am writing Healing Honestly a book that will be coming out in 2023 that offers survivor-to-survivor support in healing from CSA and living with trauma from sexual violence. You can contribute your words and thoughts anonymously or with whatever name you would like to use!

Advice for parents of CSA survivors

Hear from Alisa’s mom about supporting an adult child who experienced childhood sexual abuse (CSA). Read her advice for parental figures and parents on how to show up for CSA survivors in their lives in a way that centers the survivor and their needs.

Tips for going to the gynecologist as a survivor

Survivor-to-survivor tips for dealing with sexual trauma and going to the gynecologist or getting a pelvic exam, including tapping into self-compassion for why it can be so hard for us, asking for accommodations to make the office visit more comfortable and celebrating the accomplishment of going to the exam.

Grieving and Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse

Why grief can be such a central part of our experience healing from childhood sexual abuse and living with trauma.

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What working on our healing can bring us

Ingrid, a reader, asked if I could write about all the positive changes that happen when we work on our healing. I asked sexual violence survivors, including childhood sexual abuse survivors, to share with me their experiences in healing from trauma and all the good stuff that work has brought into their lives.

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Celebrating together!

This week marks HealingHonestly.com’s fourth birthday and, for the first time, I actually wanted to celebrate it. I have struggled to take time to appreciate my…

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